My hope is to start a trauma-healing revolution with the mantra that the pen is mightier than the sword. I have not come up with anything new; I have just been told that the information I have put together from my experiences and by the highly acclaimed experts is what they needed to learn. Kinda like the “All I Really Need To Know I Learned in Kindergarten” by Robert Fulghum, except this material addresses the fact that by the time many children start kindergarten they aren’t even able to learn these basics because they have been traumatized, which can include surgeries, witnessing domestic violence, going through a (or several) divorces, a death of a close family member, abandonment, neglect, lack of attachment, substance use inside the home, hunger, sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, war, etc. The old “boot-strap” mentality really isn’t effective in treating these wounds.

This website and material could be put into two books. Book I “Everything I didn’t learn at home or in Kindergarten, or ever, ever”, and Book 2 “Most of the crap I learned at home and other places, or ever, was wrong.” After unlearning some of this stuff, we can then just go by what Robert Fulghum gave us in 1986.

Fulghum stated:
ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten…

Share everything.

Play fair.

Don’t hit people.

Put things back where you found them.

Clean up your own mess.

Don’t take things that aren’t yours.

Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.

Wash your hands before you eat.

Flush.

Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.

Live a balanced life—learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.

Take a nap every afternoon.

When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together.

Wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup—they all die. So do we.

Trauma effects our ability to learn and live. Trauma isn’t just about rape or war. Trauma effects how we are raised, live and teach others. It is the core of many of today’s issues. We have got to stop surviving and start living and caring. Please check out the rest of the material. Thanks Patricia Swan-Smith, Licensed Professional Counselor, and trauma coach.