Do you say things like:

“Well, they chose drugs over their children.”

“Well she chooses to stay with him.”

“I don’t work with addicts!”

“I do not deal with substance abuse.”

“I’m not going to hold their hand.”

“We’ve given them all the tools they need; they just don’t want to change.”

“I cannot believe how disrespectful he/she is.”

“They are going to have to learn how to respect authority!”

If you say any of these things, it’s apparent you don’t understand trauma and its effects. Trauma is not an excuse for unhealthy behavior, it’s a reason.